The stages of dating
Perhaps you start spending even more time with boys to compensate for those feelings, or start dating as many men as you can to convince yourself you aren’t gay (okay, maybe that was just me …).
Maybe you start talking about boys a lot in front of your girl friends so they don’t have any doubts regarding your sexual allegiance.
Does acceptance mean you have to come out to everyone you meet? After all, straight people don’t walk around telling everyone they’re straight, do they? Some might feel comfortable sharing their lifestyle with friends and family, while others may prefer to keep it to themselves until they feel more comfortable with the lifestyle.
Others literally pick and choose who they’ll be straight with about being gay.
Or, if your grandmother is reaching the end of her life and you think it might upset her to know you’re gay, you might choose to let that one go.
Either way, the choice is up to you, and you should never let anyone make you believe otherwise.
However, I must tell you, I have never felt more happier with myself and even the people the around me. ” Acclimatization: “I If you would like extra guidance...
For many, this is where the fun truly begins, and where you start to feel “at home” within yourself. It’s also a point at which you might start to explore something else that’s pretty awesome — playing a part in the greater Lesbian Community, The Other Team ;).
And as with any major life chance or decision, you may naturally begin to move through a number of stages as you grow and deal with that change.
I call these stages the 5-As: Avoidance, Acknowledgment, Acceptance and Acclimatization. That’s because the last stands for how you’ll feel at the end of the journey: Awesome.
Even if you’re not sure right now where you fall into the gay/straight spectrum, that’s okay.
At some point, however, you may come to the point of recognizing that you are in fact, gay.Personally, the acceptance stage took me the longest (well over 6 years after I had been with my first girlfriend).